It’s o.k. to stand up to rude behaviors—as long as you don’t respond in kind—or expect change in the rude person. Stay cool and pleasant.
- Don’t take it personally.
- Size up your annoyances. Will it accomplish anything to make a stink?
- Set a good example. Rude begets rude.
- Count to ten…is it worth a blow up?
- Laugh it off—chuckle and change the subject or move on
Just in case you’re not sure what rude behavior looks like, here are the current top 12 rude behaviors according to Peggy Post:
- Cell “yell.” Broadcasting conversation in a public place. Most of the information you are sharing about your situation, your neighbor’s situation, or medical procedures aren’t of interest to people who don’t know you.
- Driving recklessly. Believe it or not, some people drive like they personally own the road. Driving offensively and aggressively is rude.
- Telling racist or ethnic jokes. It’s hard to believe that people are still telling these types of jokes in 2017, right? Its low class behavior and rude.
- Looking down on sales people and restaurant staff. Unless you want them to spit in your food, be nice to those who wait on you in any setting!
- Swearing in public. Its low class behavior and rude. People around you shouldn’t be subjected to offensive words just because you feel like saying them.
- Allowing your kids to bother others. Your kids aren’t as cute as you think they are—especially to others who can’t hear the movie, shop or eat a meal in peace.
- Verbally abusing umpires. Even if you are right about a call or ruling, don’t harass the umpires and officials.
- Leaving a mess. After a movie, YOU are supposed to take your cup, popcorn bag, and any other trash, with you and dispose of it in the big trash can by the door. Littering is unacceptable. It’s classy to leave a place better than you found it.
- Not giving up your seat to an elderly, pregnant, or disabled person. It’s not always about your comfort or convenience. Putting others before you is always the proper way to go.
- Charging through a crowd. Pushing your way through the mall, sidewalk, office building is just rude. Even if you are late, it’s never proper to bulldoze your way through a crowd. If you do, say “Pardon me.”
- Cutting in. Cutting in line and/or cutting in to a conversation…whatever the case, don’t do it. Wait patiently for an opportunity to proceed. Wait for a pause in the conversation before speaking. No one likes to be interrupted.
- Holding up others because you are on your cell phone. Believe it or not, the world does not revolve around you and your time schedule. Don’t make people wait for you while you chat on your phone. It’s rude beyond measure and announces to everyone that you think you are the most important person in the room.